4 Common Mistakes Made on Swingers Dating Sites

Swinger dating sites offer great opportunities to meet other sexual-adventurous people online. But, particularly if you’re new to these sites, there are a few common mistakes which members can make. We’ve been around the (swinger dating site) block a few times now, so wanted to pass on some sage advice on common mistakes to avoid when looking for swinger dates online…

1: Choosing the wrong site

People who are new to swinging, or swinger dating sites, might think “Whatever, they’re all the same!” – this is absolutely untrue, and a big mistake to make. Some sites have thousands or even millions of members, whilst others house a much smaller community. Sites may encourage all sorts of activities, or they may focus in on couples-only, or a particular group of fetishes. One site might offer video options, whilst another may be designed for text-only chat. It’s worth considering what you hope to gain from a site, who you’d like to meet, and how you want to meet / communicate with them. Join a few on a trial basis, take a look about, then decide on which one to pay for. A little homework can pay off big-time.

2: Not reflecting the couple on a profile

If you and your partner are hoping to find sexual partners online, make sure you create a profile page which discusses both of your preferences. Not only do other members want to know what they might expect from you as a couple, it’s also a good opportunity to discuss your sexual preferences with your current partner. When other couples explore a site looking to hook-up, they want to know what their potential dates are into, not just the preferences of half of the couple. This also goes for photos: upload pictures which represent you both, not just one of you.

3: Not being specific enough

There’s a whole world of potential swingers to date or hook-up with, and each of them has different sexual fantasies and expectations. Therefore, whilst being open-minded is a great thing, it’s also good to be specific about what you want. This will avoid confusion in the future, and lets other members know exactly what to expect, as well as setting your limits out clearly. Given the number of members on swinger dating sites, it shouldn’t really do much harm to your chances if you’re specific about your requirements and desires, and this could even help them to locate you when performing searches. Some new members fail to be specific, or say they’re “up for anything” and whilst this might be true, that certainly won’t be the case for everyone.

4: Not being ready for a real swinging lifestyle

Being sexually interested or adventurous, doesn’t mean you’re ready to jump head-first into a swinging lifestyle. If you’re in a partnership, it’s important to make sure you both feel comfortable with this move, and that you have your boundaries agreed upon. It’s a big step to take, and it’s not always clear when someone is ready, or not, to take the plunge. If you’re unsure, it’s still worth signing up to a swinger dating site and talking to other members about it, as they often have plenty of advice and are very supportive of others who are considering the lifestyle change.

The lowdown…

Feeling comfortable with your preferences is really important when deciding to use a swinger dating site. Be clear about what you’re looking for, make sure you (and a potential partner / partners) are comfortable and honest with your choices. Trust is very important to many people who engage in swinging, and it can be a big mistake to go ahead without thinking things through carefully enough. Once you feel comfortable approaching other members about potentially engaging in sexual encounters, who knows what may happen…!